Developing Charisma And Harnessing the Power of Your Charisma
Power can sometimes be a tricky thing. If it falls in the
wrong hands it can be devastating. In the right hands it can
be uplifting and fulfilling. Charisma is the same way. Charisma
is, in some ways, much like power. It is a certain type of power.
With charisma you can get people to do pretty much anything
that you want. People look to you for leadership. People try
to emulate you. It can be a huge responsibility. It can be a
little overwhelming at times. So how do you harness the power
you your charisma once you achieve it? The answer is simpler
than you may think.
When people look up to you for advice and leadership, it is
a huge responsibility. Those people are at your disposal and
you could likely get them to do anything that you wanted them
to do. In short, it is easy to manipulate people in order to
get what you want.
But this is not true charisma, it is an illusion. You can
euphemize it and wave it away. Manipulation is what it is and
what it is is unethical. This does not mean that you can not
influence people to follow your lead, but be a good leader. The
best leader does so by following.
Use your charisma to lift others up and help them. This does
not mean praise someone for every little thing, but it does mean
that when someone has a bad day, putting a hand on their shoulder
and telling them that they are doing a great job can go a long
way. Stay positive.
If you must criticize someone, tell them something positive
about themselves, then the criticism and follow up with something
positive. In management, this is called the "sandwich technique."
So, now you know that you don't want to manipulate and you
do want to uplift others, but how do you get there? Harnessing
the power of your charisma can be done in three simple steps:
* Be aware - know when you are slipping into manipulation
* Make eye contact - this does double duty. When you make
eye contact with someone they feel more trusting toward you.
Additionally, you are encouraged more to tell the truth while
making eye contact because not being truthful or sincere causes
you to want to look away.
* Commit - commit to working on your charisma and on keeping
it in check. You have to have a clear cut, established list of
what you feel is "over the line" and what is ethical.
So many people have very loose ethics that seem to change according
to the situation.
Once harnessed you will find that charisma works even better
for you. Controlled charisma keeps you alert and aware. You observe
more of what is going on around you as well as what is going
on inside of you.
You can achieve all the things that you want to achieve. You
have the confidence and the passion to make things happen. This
is a great power, harness it and the sky is the limit.
There is much more to learn about developing Charisma and
using it wisely. Next, learn how to develop
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